November 6th, 2008
|02:02 pm - A thought|
I realized something, today.
It's much easier on the psyche (or the emotions, anyway) to say "I will do (something)" than to say "I should do/be doing (something)." Maybe it's just because "should" implies that there's no room for being weary or for a lack of time and energy. Or perhaps the effort of will in making a choice is stronger than the effort of will in complying with an outside standard.
I'm still mulling this over.
Current Mood: contemplative
I agree that "I will do" is easier on the psyche than "I should do", but I don't think those are quite the reasons. My feeling is that "I should" implies failure - "I should, but I probably won't". A "should" has more guilt associated with it, somehow.
My aunt used to say "no more shoulds!"
And I do agree with ladybrick
about Yoda: "There is no try, there is only do, or do not."
Not that I am always good at following that mantra.
"Should" = guilt, yes. Because "should" implies a moral value, whereas "will" may imply no more than a firm personal choice. I have often told people, "Don't should me!", and I try (with varying success) not to do it to others.
Yeah, that makes sense. I think I was overthinking this in the actual post. *g*
Yeah, since "should" can lead to "then why aren't I?"
"Will", though, well that's like making a promise to yourself.