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November 6th, 2008

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02:02 pm - A thought
I realized something, today.

It's much easier on the psyche (or the emotions, anyway) to say "I will do (something)" than to say "I should do/be doing (something)." Maybe it's just because "should" implies that there's no room for being weary or for a lack of time and energy. Or perhaps the effort of will in making a choice is stronger than the effort of will in complying with an outside standard.

I'm still mulling this over.
Current Mood: contemplativecontemplative

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Date:November 6th, 2008 11:28 pm (UTC)
Listen to Yoda!
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Date:November 6th, 2008 11:47 pm (UTC)
I agree that "I will do" is easier on the psyche than "I should do", but I don't think those are quite the reasons. My feeling is that "I should" implies failure - "I should, but I probably won't". A "should" has more guilt associated with it, somehow.

My aunt used to say "no more shoulds!"

And I do agree with ladybrick about Yoda: "There is no try, there is only do, or do not."

Not that I am always good at following that mantra.
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Date:November 8th, 2008 04:16 am (UTC)
"Should" = guilt, yes. Because "should" implies a moral value, whereas "will" may imply no more than a firm personal choice. I have often told people, "Don't should me!", and I try (with varying success) not to do it to others.
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Date:November 8th, 2008 06:49 am (UTC)
Yeah, that makes sense. I think I was overthinking this in the actual post. *g*
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Date:November 7th, 2008 01:43 am (UTC)
Yeah, since "should" can lead to "then why aren't I?"

"Will", though, well that's like making a promise to yourself.

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